#77 How to Argue with your Spouse

When someday you get married, conflicts and arguing are common and acceptable.  In fact, families where there are no fights whatsoever, are usually families who have grown apart from each other and not interested in each other's life or interests.  Obviously the number of conflicts should be less than the number of hugs-kiss-love-positive moments.

We have heard quite a variety of advice when it comes to resolving arguments or conflicts.  Some of the best ones that we have improvised are:

1. Both or one of you must leave the room until things calm down.  
2. As soon as the temperature of the room rises up and blood is boiling, get naked real quick, both of you.  Preferably not in front of the kids or guests.  Continue verbal arguing while naked.  You both will realize that it's almost impossible to fight while both of you are naked.
3. Go to separate rooms, write your thoughts into a letter, write the solutions, sign the bottom of the letter with a big "I LOVE YOU" and exchange the letters without a word and wait or see #5.
4. Keep whispering to each other while arguing.  Never raise your voice.
5. The best one is to be the first to say, "I'm sorry," with a kiss and hug.  Do this even when you think you are right.

#24 Success and Happiness

Sweethearts, many people are so obsessed with these three things: money, fame, and power.  Greatness has nothing to do with being beautiful, being popular, or even being wealthy.

Imagine this.  Professional basketball players (NBA) make millions of dollars per year, which translates to over $500+ per hour income if they were to work a 40 hours per week  job.  Per hour!   If you put yourselves in their shoes, these pro players have everything that most people can only dream:  they are über famous with tons of die-hard fans around the world, they drive expensive cars, living in multiple mansions, fly private jets, wear designer clothes, many are good-looking, and many worked hard to get to where they are today.  Yet, many have broken marriages, committed suicides, involved in drugs and narcotics, broken relationships, depression, etc.

Now, there is nothing wrong with being wealthy, being popular, being successful, or being beautiful.  In fact, your dad always says that the only people who say "money can't buy happiness" are most likely people who are poor themselves.   Money is not the root of all evil.  The love of money IS.  If you are poor, you are a burden to others, but if you have money, then you can take care of your family, go on vacations with your loved ones, live comfortably, and have the opportunity and ability to help other people.

But what makes life miserable is when you ignore life's important ingredients.  The important things that make up a great life are peace of mind, pure joy, great relationships, love, the blessings of health, and especially being in good standing with God.

#3 Be Who You Are & Say What You Feel

"Be who you are and say what you feel 'cause people who mind don't matter, and people who matter don't mind." ~ Theodor Seuss Geisel